Taking Care of Yourself

We all desire inner peace and balance in our lives. I recall my trip to California last year. It was April 11, 2012. Yes, I remember the date and time even (9:16 PST) I was staying with a friend of mine, sleeping on the couch. It was the closest I've ever felt centered with inner peace. The universe was aligned with me at that very point. It wasn't a physical state of being but a mental one.

All that starts with taking care of yourself. We all externalize to varying extents. Facebook, social media outlets, water cooler talks and so on. I do this a lot. My voice is external to others. Even this blog post is that.

However, to achieve that inner peace and centering, one should try to take care of themselves. This is not just working out, eating right, but inner talks, writing, journaling, however, you can show you that you love yourself.

Disclaimer: I am not a parent in the purest sense. I have four legged kids. However, I see single parents and couples, having their entire existence predicated upon their kids. It is their identity. This is why we all know about empty nest syndrome. The kids are gone and they don't know how to take care of themselves. In shuttling kids to practice, school, vacations, chores and the like they lost sight of who they really were.

Conversely, I see people that are relationship addicts. One mate to another and on to another. Each attempt at a relationship is externalizing their love for the mate. In doing so, their interest in their mate helps them hide the flaws they so desperately want to avoid. Once the breakup happens, they miss all that. Cry for help. Surrounding themselves with 'YES' people to hide the hurt of the loved one. When in fact, they could take care of themselves and become whole. Once a person is whole, that need for a mate no longer is desired like an addiction but as a nice to have. It is an amazing place to be with out that want and/or need. I am working at that myself.

This is where I am. I cannot sit here and pontificate I know the answers for everyone. I am working on taking care of myself. I have true friends that remind me of that, when I stray. When I externalize my thoughts and feelings. Surround yourself with people who are willing to help you along in this journey.

Remember this, the flaws of another you see are just flaws you see in yourself. If you take care of yourself and identify your own flaws, working on them (re: taking care of yourself), you not only become more whole, you attract the people you desire to live your life with.

I can tell you without a doubt that my habits, my thoughts, my intentions have not been where they should be. And because of that, I've not been the most positive person.

However, I am learning to take care of myself each and every day. Some days are easier and some are harder. I'll leave you with my mantra that my life coach and I wrote for myself. Maybe this will help you connect with yourself and ultimately create the person you want to be.

Connect with yourself.
Connect with your environment.
Connect with people through meaningful relationships.
Connect with your work.


The universe leaves breadcrumbs for you to follow. It's up to you to pick them up and follow them.



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