Are You Ready

Too often in life we receive messages we physically hear but yet do not take to heart. This is not a fault or a bad thing.

We have to be open to the universe and to ideas for them to take hold of us. Case in point for myself. My coaches mantra is to "journal" everything. I still resist this to a certain point. However, it is a great mechanism for me and an outlet for whatever is circling around in my head at that time. Once I write it down on paper using a pen, it reveals many things I need to hear. All these coming from myself. Early on in my work with my coach I was not ready to hear this message. I now am and journal frequently in my own way that meets my needs. I am now receiving that message.

In this journey with my coach we laugh a lot about these types of direction I get. Sometimes I'm just not ready to receive that message and other times it's perfect timing and the message is so well received that I action it almost immediately.

I have a lot of friends that are taking a similar journey to me in wanting inner peace and feeling centered. Many of their messages I am not ready to hear but I keep an open mind as I may not action that message right away, I still know it's there. It's wonderful to have people like that in my life that are accepting that way.

Once you understand that not all messages are ready for you and vice versa, it becomes easier. I am learning this each day and working that into my daily practice of being better today than I was yesterday.

That's all I can ask and hope that I receive helpful messages along the way knowing I may not be ready for them. It's part of the journey of life.


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The Ego Litmus Test

You can use this on your friends and family and most importantly yourself.

As I’ve typed about and maybe you’ve read, the ego thinks in the past and the future, forgetting about the present.

Listen to your inner dialogue and see where it is located.  Is it resting comfortably in the past talking about what could’ve been, what happened, how wounded you are or any of that stuff?  If so, it’s the ego controlling that because that is a very comfortable position to live in and the ego is happy.

What about if your inner dialogue is all about things you want or if I just lived near the water or if and so on.  A lot of what-if scenarios playing in that dialogue?  Again, it is your ego playing that movie for you because it is “happy” in that spot.

Even at work you can see who is motivated by the past or the future but not the present.  Managers make decisions to affect the future but great leaders are present, in the moment with full on listening skills to capture the moment to make key decisions.  Watch people at work and see if they are present by just how they talk.  

I have lived this stuff over and over again myself, especially the past.  Anyone who is close to me, family and friends, know this about me.  I lived in the past for so long even though I made it through each day.  I have been also living in the future thinking about all these material things or if I just took a year off or quit my job with nothing lined up.  That’s all the future that hasn’t happened.

All this is the ego controlling events in your mind.

Now, take this to your friends and family.  See how they talk, see where it originates from.  See if they are appreciating the very moment you are with them or are they just wandering in the past and future.  You will be able to see what controls them and how present they are.

I love living in the present moment as it gets me energized like nothing I’ve ever drank or eaten or even exercise can’t do that.  The present is why some painters love to paint because they are so focused on each and every paint stroke.  When I play sand volleyball, my mind is totally focused on each play and I love that.  Even as I write this, I’m focused on the words to craft a meaningful post.

The ego is necessary but should be controlled by living in the very present moment.  Deep breathing exercises and meditation are great ways to clear that clutter and being able to live in that moment.  The more I write about being in the present moment, the more excited I get about life.  It is a beautiful way to live.

I have not fully mastered this and it is a huge process change for me, but each day I try to get present during my work day and while I work on other things.  Letting go what hasn’t happened is so powerful and will bring you happiness in a way that will attract people in your life that bring meaning and value.

Listen to your inner dialogue and listen to others to see how they are wired.  If it all the past and the future, they are being driven by ego.  See how present they are and how present you are.  Sharpen those listening skills and stay present as much as saying “put the left foot in front of the right foot” present.  The more you live that way the more powerful you become, you become centered and connected to the universe in a very powerful way.

I am whole

Through self observation, therapy and friends, I am teaching myself to understand that I am whole.  I am the sum of my parts.  I can’t be just the good parts.  I am the bad parts as well, the addictions the weaknesses that I work on.  I AM WHOLE.  I am the sum of all these parts which makes me great! I looked around at my house.  It is an amazing metaphor for who I am right now.  I have done a lot renovations on it.  However it’s not done.  Nothing in my house is broken.  It just needs some renovations to make it what I want.

The same applies to me and the life I am crafting.  I just need some renovations like being more grateful, living in the very present moment without the past or future.  Something I learned in my work with my life coach is that the ego is what is hanging on to the past and future.  It is the wall that is stopping me from changing into the person I want to be.

I want to live a life of inner peace and connection with people and the universe.  Once I can get into a rhythm of that, I firmly believe life can make way for the dreams I wish to achieve like producing a TV series, acting in a TV series.  It goes to the blog I wrote about “what do you want to attract?”.  That blog talks about being what you want to attract.  Once I get that routine of being at peace, living life one moment at a time (including typing this), I can attract the people I love to be around, crafting a universe of my own that reflects my value system.  Each day I walk towards that routine, reading books looking for hints, living a life of choosing myself as James Altucher talks about.  (See his book link below).

Even as I sit here, I can feel my ego draw up fears and challenges to being a better person.  The ego wants that comfort of those addictions, those thoughts, those scenarios it knows.  Once I am truly happy, living my truth each day, anything is possible.  The ego right now in this moment is drawing up fear of losing my house and not being able to afford things I can now.  I am grateful I’m in the present moment to see that is what the ego is doing.  Yes, we all need to survive and have food and water.  However, if you give in to the process of living your truth, being peaceful and connected, it will take care of itself.  The ego is making it hard to do that but each thought is visualizing that way of life of meditation, inner peace and love.  Self love.  Once I get that self love and inner peace, I can help others, make films that are meaningful to me and surround myself with people creating happy moments each day with love and peace.  It sounds very 70’s peace like but it’s a higher consciousness that Deepak Chopra talks about.

Living a life of mindfulness, inner peace and self love brings about the rewards we all seek.  I’m very grateful that I’m learning these truths as a single man right now.  I only have 2 pets and no spouse or girlfriend to deal with.  I can enter into this mindset now and achieve a harmonic convergence with the universe inside my soul.

As Melissa Etheridge writes in her song “We are the ones”, we are the ones we that we are waiting for.  I know that this is a spiritual journey I am on and it’s fun and exciting because it gives me hope.  I hope just one sentence will help you along.  If you would like to know more, below are some of the materials I have at home.  I love this journey and to connect with others on this same spiritual journey.  Yes, tell your ego to not worry.  This is fun because there is so much hope and reward.

Imagine being connected to well with the universe and your fellow man that when you are on that beach you dream of, you an channel the universe.  A powerful feeling for sure.  It’s the journey I am taking.

Very good links to follow for books on Amazon.  No I don't get paid for them.  I just love the books.  I own them all.

Srinivas Rao The Art of Being Unmistakeable
Kamal Ravikant Live Your Truth
James Altucher Choose Yourself