Layers

Everyone has layers.  The first layer we see is their outer beauty, what they look like.  We see people in the mall, at the gas station and we judge by that layer.  We have heard no spoken words yet, we just have that first layer in which to go by.  Sadly, ignorant people stay at that first layer.

We then talk to the person and yet another layer is revealed.  We see their body language, the words they choose, what they talk about and how they talk about it.
Should we have an extended conversation with this person, more layers are revealed.  A personal life layer, or a family life layer, a work layer, or a hobby layer.

Should we be lucky enough, the person will reveal those layers willingly and freely.  Should you be open enough to reveal those layers to them.  Somewhere in the Christian bible it says "he who lives in a glass house shall cast the first stone".  They who live in a glass house choose to let people see their layers to the core.

It is a work in progress to be that open with your spouse or significant other, but those around you, your friends and co-workers.

I have many layers that helped shape who I am from my childhood to the choices I made as an adult in my career and personal life.  All those layers shape the man I have become.  I am far from perfect, but I am learning how to reveal those layers, so I learn to trust people and I learn that these layers are just a piece of cloth that help shape the whole picture.

It is a work in progress.  Trust that those layers are there to help you not hurt  you.  I'm working towards that end and so should you.